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Every
parent could use some help!
Parenting is one of the most
difficult jobs a person will ever have. You constantly hear, "Kids don't come with instruction manuals!" Some parents do seek out books, self-help videos, etc. But the problem with knowledge based materials
is that they’re
not interactive. Everything looks good on paper, but it is when we bring our new-learned knowlege and try it in the real work, that's when we see if it works. There are many moments in parenting when you don't know how to handle a situation, and sometimes you may overreact. This can cause fights, yelling, and usually never gets positive results. These negative
parenting techniques can cause serious emotional problems
for both kids and their parents.
Kids should learn to earn their privileges.
When the phone is ringing, the water is boiling, and your child is whining, it's sometimes easier to give in and give your child what he/she wants. It is often easier to give your child the toy instead of getting into an arguement about it. Life doesn't slow down, and the easier way is not always the best. When kids are given everything, they come to rely on the fact they will always get what they want if they put up a bit of a fuss. However, when they are grown and in the real world, they will abruptly learn that's not they way things work. Why not teach them to work for privileges now? The harder they work, they prouder they will be of themselves, the the more they will respect the privileges they have.
It's important that everyone knows and understands what's expected.
Some parents are quite different on their approach to parenting
styles
and methods. When parents can’t
find that middle ground, where is the child left? They’re
left without clear expectations. Kids may be getting one
extreme from one parent and a very different one from the
other. EasyChild
fosters communication between parents and their children. When everyone is on the same page, and everyone knows the expectations, there is little room for arguement.
Kids benefit from structure
Good grades
are not enough.
A common comment from parents is "my
kids are getting good grades, my kids are good, they don’t
need this". Parents who are using external measurements,
like grades, are not addressing all of the skills necessary
for their child's future success. Every child needs to be goal oriented and raised to become self-reliant
and independent. Every child needs
to learn to function without having things given
to them, so they
can fend for themselves someday.
Kids have a lot
to learn and parents are their best teachers.
When children
grow up with solid work ethics, they learn how to interact with others and work for their rewards. Parents have a huge influence on their children, so it's important to teach hardwork and positive behavior in the home. If kids have to work for privileges at home, they will not be shocked when they have to work for them everywhere else.
Kids
need visual structure to help them succeed.
The EasyChild
behavior
chart helps kids see what their expectations are. Kids can be involved in the system, and they can help mark themselves off for the positive behaviors they exibited throughout the day. Kids get a sense of achievement when they can see what is expected and how close they are to achieving their goals.
Kids in a materialistic society.
Many parents instinctually know what is going on with their children.
The world is becoming more materialistic and less censured, and it is hard watching kids grow up. Many kids are now seeking status over substance,
a great car, expensive clothes, flashy toys. And much of this is expected at a young age. Instead of having to work for these things, kids have just come to expect them. Easychild makes kids work for their privieges or rewards. And when kids have to work to get what they want, they appriciate it more!
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